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Energy Psychology Tips For Romance In Healthy Aging

admin — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 01:50:41 +0000

Romance is widely understood as the vital connection with the “special someone” who is or will become your life partner. The laws of attraction operate in a most tangible way when it comes to romance.

If you are grumpy, unhappy, or very needy you are likely to attract those very qualities another person. This is true whether you are just meeting someone new or you have been with a partner for many years.

To find the “right person” in someone else, find ways of being the best person you can possibly be. If you want to maintain a long-term romantic relationship with your lifelong partner, be as creative as possible in your daily life by examining each interaction with the person for its gifts and challenges.

Bringing your wisdom and humor into the second half of life is a vital ally for enhancing your romantic relationship.

Here are a few practical tips from the new field of energy psychology for maintaining your emotional balance and keeping the charge of vitality and romance alive in your most significant relationship.

1. Learn from each interaction. After any interaction with the person you consider most significant ask yourself, “What happened just now? How could it have been better? What can I learn here?”

2. Be honest with yourself. Instead of prevaricating about why something went wrong, simply acknowledge harmony did not prevail in that moment rather than blaming the other person or feeling hurt.

3. Treat yourself by acknowledging your limitations in an interaction, “Even though ______ happened /or I wish I had not said_______, I deeply and profoundly accept myself and am learning to enhance my relationship skills.”

4. Release negative emotions quickly by tapping the sides of the hands together while making your releasing statement, ” I now let go of my guilt/heaviness/ anger/disappointment.”

5. Rebalance yourself. Emphatic downward movements over the whole body help stagnant energy to release more fully. Feel your center while holding the hands gently over the heart to comfort and affirm yourself.

6. Apologize and forgive readily. You can certainly own your part in the conflicting situation.

7. Make a peace offering. It might be a smile, a joke, a gesture, a sharing of food, a sentence about an unrelated but safe topic.

8. Allow time for the significant person in your life to respond. Remember, the other person may process emotions at a different tempo.

9. Celebrate reunion with touch. Remember there are many ways to connect intimately without engaging sexually. Share with each other how you can do things differently in the future. Staying engaged in a romantic relationships requires daily commitment and frequent “tune ups.” Nothing happens automatically. With practice, though, you can learn to follow your intuition about the best timing for sensitive issues and steadily learn what works best for both of you.

Choosing to keep romance alive in our hearts is a great adventure and joy in healthy aging!

For more helpful ideas about maintaining relationship health and vitality visit Dr. Dorothea’s website or purchase her most recent book, Second Chance at Your Dream (2009, Energy Psychology Press). www.secondchancedream.com

Human Resources Professionals Need Career Coaching Too

hanun — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 01:52:49 +0000

Most people in Human Resources deal with job seekers everyday, and it seems reasonable to expect that they would have an edge when conducting their own job search. They spend their days sourcing candidates, screening resumes, determining (and negotiating) salary, and interviewing. Considering their profession, they should know all of the tricks and be able to get a new position more quickly than people in other industries. Yet, as many people in HR know from personal experience, this is often not the case. Working with a job coach, specifically one experienced in the Human Resources field, can ensure that edge. First let’s look at a few different reasons for the disconnect from the two sides of the hiring desk.

People in HR have so much experience making the employment decisions that they completely forget what it is like to be on the other side. Here is where the inside tricks backfire. Anyone who has conducted interviews had certain answers that they were looking for. When HR people are in an interview they feel like they need to give that “right” answer rather than the honest answer that best describes them. A perfect example is the topic of compensation. Having presented compensation offers, they may know how much the limit is for most positions, but not know the negotiating tactics to obtain it for themselves.

Another weakness can come from a lack of objectivity. While people in all industries can struggle to articulate their accomplishments, it can happen to HR people more easily. People in human resources are very familiar with the process of hiring and the steps, but that is not that same as being able to nail an interview by clearly describing their talents and qualifications for a new position. Because of the illusion that they know exactly what to do in the job search, they often fail to recognize areas for improvement in the process.

Finally HR positions can be very competitive. Human resources positions are among the first to be eliminated during layoffs. After all, how much work can there be to do when a company has a hiring freeze? Even non-recruiting positions can be at risk when training budgets are slashed and benefits are reduced. This reality leads to an oversaturation of the market. Regardless of the state of the economy though, there are always jobs and you just need to know where to find them. As a coach, I recently worked with a client in HR that received interviews at eight companies. This many interviews is an accomplishment at any time, but especially in this time of layoffs. It is proof that the jobs are out there and a well conducted job search can yield results.

A career coach can let you know what the “rules of the game” are, and how you can use them for your own unique situation. While people in HR are experts in posting the jobs, they don’t always know where to find their own. A coach can target your search while also adding some tricks that rarely come up in a human resource job, like personal branding. Possibly most valuable, a career coach can serve as your accountability partner and cheerleader. He or she can keep you motivated and on track, identify and overcome obstacles, and guide you to develop a personally targeted plan. Some resources are available through career books and internet research, but if your job search isn’t going anywhere, or you need to get a new position fairly quickly, a career coach could be the solution for you.

Healthy Eating During Baby Pregnancy

admin — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 01:20:22 +0000

You probably already know how important it is to eat a well-balanced diet, but it is even more important when you are pregnant. Keep in mind now you are eating for two. Whatever you eat, the baby eats as well. In fact the baby actually takes your nourishment so you must eat enough for both of you. The healthier you eat the better it is for the baby during pregnancy and you.

Never miss a meal while you are pregnant, especially breakfast. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day and your baby has probably been waiting since he/she woke up in the middle of the night. You may learn that if you wait so long before eating you start to feel sick, this is your body telling you to eat. Do it!

Make sure you are getting enough of the food you need daily. It takes 4-6 servings of dairy produce a day for a healthy baby pregnancy, this can include some cheeses, milk, yogurt. This provides the baby with calcium which it’ll need to develop healthy growing bones. Adding extra calcium to your diet wouldn’t hurt you either, especially your teeth and bones.

Don’t forget about your fruit and vegetable servings. Lots of green is always a good choice, so are sweet potatoes. Not only will you be giving your body what it needs but you’ll start to have more energy. Try laying off the sweets for a week and replace them with healthier items and see how alive you feel.

Foods to Avoid

Not all foods are safe during your pregnancy, there are a few things you should avoid eating:

- Raw eggs

- Caffeine- soda, chocolate. If you find this difficult you can wean yourself off, but the less caffeine in your system the better it is for the baby.

- Certain fish- exotic, shark, swordfish, anything potentially high in mercury

- unpasteurized products- brie and other soft cheeses if unpasteurized.

- Undercooked meats- lunch meats. If you are buying a deli sandwich you can ask for them to heat the meat up a little.

If you are ever unsure of the foods you can eat, you can ask your doctor for a list of items to avoid during pregnancy. They’ll be more than happy to share this with you.

You may also learn that your stomach won’t handle certain foods that it would before. Some of those foods may include foods that contain grease, fast foods, meat, and certain foods that have a strong odor.

Eating healthy doesn’t mean you have to cut out all the fun in your life, you can still treat yourself from time to time. Go out and get a frozen yogurt or a smoothie.

While you are making sure you get enough to eat throughout the day, that doesn’t mean neglecting your fluid intake. You’ll need lots of water and juices from here on out. The baby will thank you later. Who knows, you may discover that you really enjoy eating healthier meals and continue it even after the pregnancy.

Read my article about children games.